Moving from Nigeria to the UK brings not only a new culture but also a very different healthcare system, lifestyle, and approach to medicine. Many Nigerians are used to taking charge of their own health due to systemic challenges at home — from long waits in hospitals to high medical bills. But adapting to the UK requires rethinking some practices, while still keeping one’s health priorities intact. 🏥 Health Systems: Nigeria vs. the UK Nigeria: * Healthcare is often out-of-pocket, making it expensive for regular visits. * Many people rely on self-medication or advice from family and local pharmacists. * Traditional medicine plays a significant role — herbs, concoctions, and natural remedies are common first-line interventions. UK: * The National Health Service (NHS) provides mostly free healthcare at the point of service. * There is an emphasis on formal diagnosis, prescriptions, and regulated pharmaceutical care. * Public health discussions — like those trending now about healthcare ...
When “A Brother Is Born for Adversity” Becomes Emotional Burden: Family Dynamics, Mental Health & Boundaries
Family is supposed to be a place of safety. But what happens when family becomes the place where responsibility is uneven, loyalty is seasonal, and support only flows in one direction? The Bible says in Proverbs 17:17, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” For many people — especially in African and Nigerian homes — this verse has been interpreted as a lifelong obligation: when your brother is in trouble, you must show up, no matter the cost. But what if “born for adversity” turns into being used for adversity? Let’s explore the psychological, cultural, and spiritual dimensions of this dynamic — and how it affects mental health. The African Family System: Loyalty Without Limits? In many Nigerian homes, family loyalty is sacred. Older siblings often: * Pay school fees * Intervene in police matters * Cover financial debts * Mediate marital conflicts * Rescue younger siblings from repeated poor choices Culturally, this is seen as strength. Psychologically, it...